"Nine circles of BDSM" or St. Petersburg BDSM-party

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In mid-February, a party was held in St. Petersburg where participants could safely join the world of BDSM. Our correspondent shares her impressions and stories of the organizers.

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The main purpose of the party was to give people who are far fr om BDSM, but are interested in this culture, the opportunity to see, touch or even experience some of the practices. Such an immersive, as it is now fashionable to say, excursion with a living experience of the atmosphere and action. Each participant was invited to visit 9 thematic mini-locations with various BDSM practices (flagellation, shibari, electroplay, and so on). At the same time, the participants were informed about the principles of safety, voluntariness and reasonableness adopted by the BDSM community, as well as about a «stop word» by which any action is stopped.

During and after the party, we managed to talk with the organizers and one of the guests of the event: Ronnie Black (sex blogger, the author of the telegram channel “Saliva is not lubrication”, party organizer), Olga Blinkova (one of the authors of the Prosack video blog, an employee of the wholesale company “Astkol Alpha”, the co-organizer of the party, master of the electroplay), Maria (also the co-organizer of the party, one of the owners of the “Dr.Moro” bar, which hosted the event), Hel (the author of the Telegram channel “Nezabudochka 18+”, the guest of the event). And now for what the direct participants of the event told us.

Idea and preparation

Ronnie: The original idea was to occupy this niche in St. Petersburg. Here, such parties are either too open or too simple. There are swinger clubs, there are kinky parties, but there is sex everywhere. Not all people are ready to go and watch sex; not everyone likes it. I wanted to make a party for those who are very interested in one of the practices, but they don’t understand much, so we give them a chance to try certain bodily practices with our specialists. It was immediately decided that sex was absolutely forbidden at this event. This was explicitly stated in the rules, people knew that they did not go here for this. After the party, you can do this at home, and when you come to us, you go to our specialists to relax and chat in the company of free people like yourself. This is a meeting for newcomers, for those who have just learned how to turn on the light in bed. To give them practice without sexual contact was the main condition.

Maria: We usually have regular customers in the bar, there are those who have been with us for three years. As a rule, new people come very rarely. About once every six months visitors change. Usually there is just a friendly atmosphere, without such parties. A couple of times a year we hold events: there are disco parties and sometimes immersive shows are held There were BDSM-themed parties but there it was just a performance for the public. We came up with the idea of this event together, and it is completely different.

Olga: I was among the organizers for the first time, although I was in Moscow. Of course, most of the work was done by the guys in St. Petersburg. The idea of the party came fr om Maria, the owner of the “Dr.Moro” bar. On one of my visits, Ronnie told about this cozy bar for me, and there we met Maria. We talked that it would be great to organize a party of BDSM, which would help people who do not know anything about it, but want to see and understand how it works. Make it all in a show format without involving the visitors very deeply (only those who want to). To show people this world of fetishes and pleasant, sensual, ecstatic pain. After that, the preparation began. Every day we had new ideas, we realized how it will work, what zones there will be. We decided to do “Nice Circles of Sado” – nine locations. I offered myself as a specialist of electroplay. Our company helped with the devices (Astkol Alpha – editor’s note), As well as colleagues fr om the S-Market got us electrical devices fr om the Shots brand. The Sitabella company, which provided harnesses, masks, devices, helped a lot. Every day we grew more and more impatient for this event to start.

At the party

Ronnie: At the first glance, everything is going normal. At the first circle, the guests simply sat with gags on and patiently waited while the girl was dancing on the bar counter. (Gags, eye masks and bondage tapes were provided by our site – editor’s note) This is the simplest thing – the beginning. Next – flagellation, electric power, heat and cold, a game with knives. In the middle of the party there is an auction of slaves. You can buy a slave can send it to pass the circle of sado instead of you.

We tried to work through everything to the smallest detail, down to the wardrobe and markers to sign the water bottles with. Our practitioners are very experienced, about 10 years in. We managed to pay attention to each guest, to talk with everyone. All visitors managed to participate in absolutely all practices. And that's great! Of course, it is impossible to predict everything. It's one thing to paint a plan on paper, and another to implement it live. We did not meet the planned timing, but decided not to finish the party, but to get on with it so that everyone would go wh ere they wanted. There simply appeared much more willing people than we thought.

The reviews are good, people are happy. I think everything went fine.

Maria: People who came to the party have not been to our bar before. We were a little worried: who will come, how they will like us. But everything went great! All people are so open, ready for what was here.

Olga: When I arrived in St. Petersburg on the eve of the party, I was very worried, there was fear: how everything will be, how it will pass, and suddenly I thought that I won’t manage what will happen next. But, as they say, you feel the fear and you do it anyway.

The event really had the atmosphere of a bar, a classic bar. It was not about sex, it was about sensual fetish. Party of ecstatic pain, sensual, pleasant pain.

Many thanks to Maria – she found music tracks, made additional transitions that marked each circle. This was very beautiful. Ronnie and I conducted our practice on the eighth circle - it was electrical stimulation. I watched all the circles, met the guests. It was very interesting, because all people are different, very beautiful, sensual, open. I saw that the guests were not simple attendants but participants. We had a limited number of places, and people understood wh ere they were going. Sensual movements of beautiful dancers, spanking, auction of slaves, watching the dance, sitting with a gag, drinking shots without hands, electric play – everything was so nice, interesting. Interacting with the guests, seeing their joy, their emotions was indescribable. For me it was aesthetically pleasing. I endlessly admire the guys who organized this event: Peter, Maria, Pavel, Ronnie, the guys who performed the actions. We also had a young man who drew the sketches of this party (the telegram channel "Blog between the legs" – editor’s note). All interaction was BDSM-themed. The girls were infinitely beautiful – an aesthetic orgasm. I took part in such an event as a co-organizer for the first time, so my emotions go wild!

With electroplay everything was very simple: safety precautions were followed, the participants were given all the necessary information. The most important thing was to catch emotions, to see feedback, and these were simply indescribable.

By the way, there were also people at the party whom we tagged and who did not interact, did not participate, just watched. And this is also a certain thing that allows you to feel comfortable with such participants. For them, the party was just a beautiful, interesting, bewitching show.

Of course, not everything goes super-smooth, there were some nuances that we discussed after the event, but in any case this is the beginning of something interesting. We all know the “NAZLO MAME” and “Kinky Russia” parties very well. It's great that other formats appear. I believe that everything turned out 100%, despite minor flaws. We did it. We have accomplished something very important.

Hel: Mega-party! I liked it! Initially, I did not intend to stay there for a long time, I had other plans, I just came to support Ronnie – we are friends by channels, we live nearby, and I deeply sympathize with her.

Therefore, I bought tickets (yes, yes, financial support is also important), announced a party via my channel and came along with my girlfriend.

It’s important to support your friends. But I did not expect much: a chamber party, for only 30 people. The bar is cute, but small. St.Petersburg, alas, is not famous for theme clubs and events. Plus it was a pilot. I was expecting a sweet party to hang out a little with the familiar persons I knew and leave.

However, everything turned out much better than I imagined. And I regret I coul not stay until the end and did not make a complete picture. Of the nine circles of sado, I went through only three.

It was very well-organized, starting with small details. That's right, starting with the wardrobe. You don’t have any jackets piled up in a heap, hangers that you share with someone else, bags and other things. Decent, spacious wardrobe with attractive slave servants. You can take your clothes, go for a smoke, come back and – lo and behold – your hanger will remain yours.

There were rooms wh ere people could change into fetish clothes, leave devices, and more. Yes, the party is small, but the bar is small too this is important. There were free drinks. Everyone had enough space to sit and relax. This is crucial, especially considering the low cost of the ticket.

I saw little of the show, but the dancer was good. Regarding the practices, the zone for them was cramped, and, as it seems to me, it was necessary to concentrate on one action.

But there was a lot of diversity though. And what's important: someone wanted to practice, someone to try, someone to see. And no one went away empty-handed: they all got what they came for, and in full, without queues and disappointments.

Another plus is that before the party, Ronnie managed to create a very friendly and united community, open to new people and comfortable. There was nobody sitting in the corner bored; everyone was somehow involved in the process.

Of the minuses, I note the following.

1) Phones. Yes, we were all friends. But personally, I hope that the party will develop and expand. In the future, you should think about privacy. The same about the photographer: you should always clearly and unequivocally ask during reporting shooting: who wants / does not want to get into the frame.

2) Alcohol. Yes, this is a personal responsibility, but – a little less of it would be better. However, this can be a very subjective opinion, for I do not drink.

The rest was almost perfect, and I'm glad that I was at the beginning of it – a matter to brag about one day).

In the meantime, I really wish Ronnie and all the organizers success and development.

What's next?

Ronnie: I think that we will continue to develop the theme of chamber parties, but next time we will take a larger room. With such heroic guests who trust us and attend our first events, you can move on.

Olga: I really hope to continue and I hope that everything will be even more interesting. Maybe some practices and formats will change. This is all being discussed, I will wait. I really love BDSM and really love different fetishes, and such a party touched my heart, pierced, ripped it, dripped with wax and burned with electric discharges. My heart is completely satisfied. I am infinitely happy that I participated in this.

Finally

Here is the place for the personal impressions of the correspondent. If I were asked to describe the party in one word, I would say: "beautiful." Everything was beautiful: a stylishly decorated bar, half-naked girls in fetish harnesses, collars, masks, brutal men, bodies trembling under the whips, faces, smiles, twilight.

If I were asked to add more, I would say: “on the same wavelength”. Everyone in this small room seemed to even breathe in unison. In unison with those who flogged and who accepted, with those who announced auction lots, and happened to be those lots.

And I would also say the buzzword “atmosphere”. It was right, that atmosphere. It was safe, exciting and somehow energetically warm. There was no fear, distrust, tension. No one was sitting in the corner with the thought: “What am I doing here?” Perhaps this is the advantage of small parties, wh ere everyone quickly becomes friends.

Sexshopers.ru thanks the organizers for the invitation and a detailed story about the party.